Not all of us are lucky enough to have the best relationship with our father. I know I’m not. There are many things to do and to know about dealing with a bad father and I have learned them through the years of living with him.
It’s hard living with such a close family member that treats you so poorly. We value our parents opinions often times more than our friends’ opinions. In fact, 79% of kids value their parent’s opinions more than their friends’.
However, that doesn’t mean you should be taking on negative influence from your father. Here are 5 ways to deal with a bad father:
Identify the Problem
Figure out what makes him such a bad father. It could be that he drinks too much, he yells too much, he is dangerous, etc.
He is a bad father that can have a negative influence on you directly so keep that in mind. Everyone will have a different response to this part of the process, so figure out exactly what it is and fixing the problem will be a lot easier.
Identify your problem with it as well. Are you scared of him or do you just not want his influence?
Avoid the Negativity
Whether it’s staying away from them at all costs or minimizing communication as best as possible, you need to try and keep the influence off of you.
The more you’re allowing influence on yourself, the more it will turn you into him. Use that as motivation to make sure that you take this step.
If you can see this step being very difficult because you know it might make things worse, I completely understand because I go through the same thing.
The one thing I can tell you is that it dramatically decreased the influence my father had on me. That was more important to me than being controlled by his influence.
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Find Things to Do
The less you can be home, the better. Period.
I started going out with friends more on the days that he wasn’t working and would be home. I found other hobbies that could keep me occupied. Not only did it keep me occupied, but it took my mind off the situation entirely.
Do what you love more and more to keep your mind off of the problem.
Turn it Positive
I decided that I could just associate this difficulty at home to motivation for other things. Just like point #3, one of the hobbies I picked up because of this was fitness.
Working out takes my mind off of it and it motivates me to push harder at the gym. I would be lying if I said my father isn’t one of the reasons I started this blog. I’m always looking for ways to improve my life and occupy myself with other things.
Motivate yourself to make money as well so that way you can move out and away from the negative things at home.
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Talk to Someone About It
It might not help fix the issue, but it might help fix your head. I would talk to my older brother about him all the time and we would even make jokes about how he acted to ease the pain.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be a sibling or close family member. Talk to a trusted friend or professional that you know would listen, care, and be there for you. You can also talk to yourself through writing or typing it out, it helps a lot.
Another person I think you should talk to is…ME. I didn’t start this blog or write this post for nothing. I want you to have someone to share things with that are as deep as this. Everyone should feel comfortable to talk in this blog. Talk it out in the comments and you’ll realize that you’re not the only one.
Real Talk is a great section of the blog so we can talk to each other about things that your family or friends don’t have time to talk about. If you have any comments, questions, or suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments sections below.
Have a tip you use to deal with your father? Let us know in the comments section so we can learn together!