How to Get a Girlfriend in High School

how to get a girlfriend in high school

Want to know how to get a girlfriend in high school? These tips will show you everything you need to get your crush to like you!

Before we start, you should note that not dating in high school isn’t the end of the world. If anything, many high school relationships are pointless.

However, gaining a bit of experience before heading off to college and beyond can help you become more social with girls in the future.

Let’s dive into the tips!

How to Get a Girlfriend in High School

1) Figure Out What You Want

Are you interested in finding a girl that you like? Do you already have someone in mind that you’ve never spoken to?

Maybe it’s one of your friends that’s a girl and you want to turn it into something more.

Regardless of what it is, it’s important that you figure out this step before moving forward with anything else.

This will ultimately help you define your goals with girls while you’re in high school.

When you’ve figured out what you’re looking for, learn to apply these next tips into your specific situation.

2) Work on Yourself

Working on yourself will help you do a few things in life:

  1. Build more confidence
  2. Increase your attraction to girls
  3. Learn more about yourself
  4. Grant you more opportunities with girls

This not only helps with all these things, but it will also show that you have other priorities in life than just girls.

Here are a few ways to work on yourself:

  • Find your style
  • Dress well
  • Clean yourself up
  • Develop a daily routine
  • Find hobbies and interests
  • Get a job
  • Focus on school

There are tons of things you can implement today if you want to become your own person. The more you feel like yourself, the faster you’ll get over the nerves when talking to girls.

3) Get Social

If you want to know how to get a girlfriend in high school, getting social is the best way to find the right match for you.

Take a look at some of the ways you can get more social:

  • Join clubs
  • Go to parties
  • Find time together at lunch
  • Join sports teams
  • Make new friends in class

Some of these ideas might not seem directly related to getting a girl, but this all helps you build up your social circle and confidence around her.

Plus, if you don’t have a specific girl in mind, this is the best way to surround yourself with new opportunities and potential candidates!

Joining things like clubs or designated social events also gives you something in common to talk about and help you find mutual interests.

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4) Approach Her With Confidence

Easier said than done, I know. 

Hopefully, after implementing some of the above tips, you will slowly open yourself up to becoming more confident with girls.

Here are a few ways to be more confident around her:

  • Lightly puff your chest out
  • Keep your chin up
  • Take a deep breath
  • Walk up to her
  • Talk slowly (speaking too fast is a sign of nerves)
  • Keep your arms open (don’t cross them)
  • Use eye contact
  • Lead the conversation

There’s probably someone in your life that you already feel super confident around (could be a guy friend). Think about what body language you use in conversations with them and implement it with girls.

Realistically, the less you care about trying to impress with every word, the easier it will be to show confidence.

5) Flirt With Her

Knowing how to flirt with a girl in high school is not easy, but there are definitely a few common practices you can start using.

Take a look…

  • Tease Her (enough to make her playfully want to hit you)
  • Compliment Her (shoes, hair, outfit, smile, personality… anything you genuinely like)
  • Touch Her (an elbow tap when you’re messing with her, a shoulder touch when she says something funny, etc.)
  • Be a Little Sarcastic (helps ease tension on both ends, shows that you’re not trying too hard, be obvious about it though)
  • Make Her Laugh (tell funny stories, show her a funny video, be a goofball when appropriate… just not too much where you seem immature)

All of these things can help you guys get closer, more personal, and eventually develop a stronger relationship.

6) Treat Her Like A Person

It’s easy to treat your crush like some goddess or put her above you where she seems unreachable.

At the end of the day, they’re just like you. They have their own insecurities, friend groups, homework, and all that other high school stuff.

If you want to get a girlfriend in high school, you have to start treating her like everyone else!

The moment you put her on a pedestal is exactly when you start losing your chance of her liking you back.

From personal experience, the girls that ended up liking me in high school were girls who I felt confident around (gave them some attention), but I didn’t give them too much attention.

The girls that I placed above myself were always impossible to get because I started putting too much time and effort into them.

Take a step back and things will suddenly become easier!

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7) Find Alone Time

Alone time is exactly when you’ll be able to build your relationship the fastest.

This can either be by hanging out alone in person or by finding an hour during the day to text privately with each other.

If she’s already your friend, it shouldn’t be hard to get her alone. If not, grabbing a number (or Snapchat) is a great start.

Think about it this way

The more hours you spend playing a video game, the better you’ll get at the game. Similarly, the more hours you get of quality time with her, the deeper your relationship will become.

It’s crucial to solidify time outside of other friends being around in order to see who she really is around you.

8) Ask Engaging Questions

There are millions of lists out there that give you good example questions to ask your crush.

Find a few really good ones and ask them when you spend time together.

These are my favorite engaging questions to ask:

  • What do you look for in a guy?
  • If you could time travel, where would you go?
  • Have you had your first kiss?
  • What’s the oldest memory you can remember?
  • What makes you feel better when you have a bad day?
  • Asking fun would you rather questions

The secret to all of this is to…listen!

By listening and remembering their answers, you can show that you care about them by bringing up their answers in future conversations.

For example, you ask them “What makes you feel better when you have a bad day?”

They might respond with “a good meal and a nice walk outside”.

In the future, if you know she’s having a bad day, you can offer to take her out for some food and eat it at the park together.

Those simple acts of kindness and care can really spark her interest in you!

9) Be Yourself

You’ve probably heard it a million times, but being yourself is the only true way to get a girlfriend in high school.

If you fake your personality, she’s either going to like someone you’re not (bad idea), or she’ll hate that you’re lying and ruin the relationship.

Either way, you want someone who likes you for you. Don’t be afraid to show your interests and be proud of them.

It will only show your confidence in yourself and that you don’t care what other people think.

You’re only in high school, so believe me when I say it’s not the end of the world if your crush doesn’t like you back when you’re 16 years old.

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10) Take It From There

Unfortunately, love doesn’t have some magical formula after you get through the talking stage.

If you end up liking each other then great! You can ask her out and will officially have a girlfriend in high school!

If it doesn’t work out, it’s not a big deal. After implementing all these tips, you will have built more confidence in yourself to not care.

It’s totally fine to use a few neat tricks to keep your flirting strong and have her interested in you all the time.

Just don’t be someone you’re not and allow the conversations to happen naturally from there!

11) Talk to Multiple Girls

Woah, Woah! Big Disclaimer!

This doesn’t mean you should be a F-boy and flirt with everyone when you’re clearly committed to one girl.

However, it never hurts to build new friendships and interests with other girls if you’re not already set on one girl yet.

The more girls you talk to

  • The more comfortable you’ll get around them
  • The easier it will be to talk to them
  • The closer you’ll get to finding the right match
  • The more options you’ll have down the line

This tip should really only be used in certain scenarios. If you abuse it, you can say “bye, bye” to the girl you actually like.

With that being said, it’s an excellent idea to gain some more experience and to know that you have options in the future.

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Hopefully these tips taught you how to get a girlfriend in high school in a simple and easy way.

Whether you’re shy or not, these steps are pretty universal and will help you get your crush.

The biggest takeaway from all of this…

Give her some attention and then back off for a bit.

It usually drives her nuts and will constantly leave her wanting more in the best way possible!

Good luck finding a girlfriend – you got this!

If you have any comments, questions, or suggestions leave them down below. Thanks for reading!

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