Girls might seem impossible to flirt with sometimes. In fact, more than 80% of women can’t even tell if you’re flirting with them!
You need to understand how to make the right moves and get her to like you. Here are 7 Ways to Flirt with Any Girl:
Please note that this information is not professional advice and is only made based off of personal experience. These tips are not scientifically proven to work, but they have helped me flirt with girls effectively and are based off of what has worked for me.
With that being said, let’s dive in on a few basic tips for how to flirt with any girl!
Tease
Mess with them. Not aggressively, but enough to make them playfully want to hit you.
It works really well if it’s worked in with a compliment. If you think you can be hurting their feelings, don’t say it.
You can always find something to tease out of anything that’s being talked about. For example, she can be talking about how she has a brother and you can respond with “Is he hot?” Obviously you’re not interested in her brother, but she’ll understand that you’re joking.
Sarcasm
When you’re being a flirt, everything needs to be sarcastic. It makes the talk so much easier and if she follows your sarcasm, she will start to open up to you more.
There is no scientific explanation why, but once you take away the seriousness of the conversation, it gets so much easier to flirt with one another.
Not everyone is fast enough to respond with sarcasm of the fly, but try your best even with the small stuff.
For example: She can ask how old you are. If you’re 17, respond with a confident 47. And if she laughs but says “no seriously how old are you”, tell her to guess. This way the conversation flows a lot smoother and you’re playing games with each other.
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Be Funny
Being funny obviously attracts girls. If you flirt without this, you aren’t flirting. The first 2 points above can be incorporated with your funny behavior.
Don’t tell jokes though, tell funny stories if you have any. If not, just make funny remarks to things she says.
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Be Confident No Matter What
If you want to know how to flirt with any girl, at least focus on this tip.
Easier said than done I know. However, you’re not losing anything out of this. The more she realizes that you’re not trying so hard, the more you will both feel comfortable talking.
Stand up tall, act like yourself, and don’t be afraid to make the moves that you want to make. Now by that, I don’t mean kiss her as soon as you feel like it. What I mean is if you want to give her a little touch on the shoulder or pull her out to dance don’t hesitate.
If you notice you’re more confident with a friend next to you, use one. Not as a wingman, but because it might be easier to start conversation or if one of your jokes fails you have a friend who gets it.
Body Language
This is key and people don’t realize it. I thought for young people it wasn’t so necessary, but it’s absolutely crucial.
Keep your body faced towards her when you’re standing up. I find it that sitting doesn’t necessarily matter as long as you look engaged. Arms must always be open, don’t cross them, look down, or play with your hands.
Don’t constantly smile; only when necessary. You can even give her a slightly annoyed face if she said something stupid or silly to tease her.
Pay attention to her body language too. Is she doing the same as you? Is she playing with her hair? Does she touch you occasionally? Those are all signs that she’s interested.
The Go and Come Back
Possibly my favorite trick when I’m trying to be flirty. You simply go for a while and come back shortly. It makes it seem as if she’s not your number one priority and you have other things to do. No it doesn’t ruin the flirting, it actually makes it stronger.
Once you’ve established a connection with her, get up and go talk to another friend or take a walk around the social event. In the meantime, you can think of things to talk about with her or go get a confidence boost from a friend.
Another trick I’ll use is walking past her and squeezing the side of her belly. She knows I’m thinking about her as I walk by and I get a little tease/touch action.
This does only work when there are other people around so utilize it if you can.
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Touch
The greatest flirting technique ever. You can’t over do it, but if you under do it, you’re missing out. If you leave for a second, give her a pat on the side of the shoulder. Give her an elbow tap when you’re messing with her.
Don’t put your arm around her unless you really think it’s appropriate. Definitely don’t touch any inappropriate parts of the body, that’s an instant turn off to them.
They’re supposed to be light, random, playful touches that send a little message. The message being “I’m into you and I want to touch you”.
I’m going to leave the rest up to you for now. Remember, don’t take it too seriously. You’re just talking to another person in a fun and playful style, that’s all.
I hope this showed you some useful tips on how to flirt with any girl. Start implementing these and she will like you in no time!
I hope you enjoyed this post. Have fun on your flirt quest! If you have any questions or comments leave them down below!
25 comments
nice advice i will try it.
when do you think i should start dating?
It depends on how old you are and there’s no specific age, but if you’re just looking for experience in a relationship, I’d say high school is a pretty good start.
If you’re looking for something very serious, it’s pretty rare to come across in high school from my experience. College and beyond would be the most likely time to start seriously dating.
Hope this answers your question!
What about eye contact? Can it help in attracting girls or women? Tell me more
Hey Jeffrey,
Eye contact can definitely help with attraction. It all goes back to body language which is super important. As long as you’re not overdoing it to the point where she thinks you’re staring into her soul, then eye contact is a must!
Hope this answered your question!
– Daniel
She’s always with her friends, how do I catch her alone??
Hey Josh,
You can say that again haha!
That’s a really hard question and it depends on your situation (at school, at work, at parties, etc.). You have a few options…
1) You can make an excuse to see something of hers (ex: her notes, a drink she’s having, a piece of jewelry she’s wearing) and talk to her then.
2) If you guys already have a friendly relationship, don’t be afraid to ask for a second to talk alone… even if it’s in a friendly manner.
3) Do what you can to at least get her number, because a phone always gives you the ability to have 1 on 1 chats.
4) Try not to go up to a large group and pull her aside. Instead, flirt with the entire group and show them your confidence.
Again, it all depends on your situation, but I think the best step is to catch her once, get her number, and build a foundation from there!
Hope this helps man. Good luck!
– Daniel
Do these same tips work if your doing it to your girlfriend?
They definitely can, Yes!
Unless I am certain a woman wants me to touch her (at all), I don’t – so in fact I never have. I’ve also never kissed a woman or been on a date. I have many woman friends who tell me if I express sexual interest in women I’ll have no trouble getting a girlfriend in a short time. I have no idea how to do that. They tell me to touch women I’m attracted to as a way of showing my desire. It’s easy to give that advice, but to me, touching a woman (unless I’m 100% sure she wants me to) is an invitation for her to slap a harassment charge against me and as such I will not go there.
Hey Paul,
I 100% get where you’re coming from. Tons of respect for you as well for not doing it unless you’re completely certain that a woman is comfortable with it.
Touching can be as simple as gently poking your elbow at them as a tease or a light tap on the shoulder to acknowledge a joke. As long as the woman is not absolutely insane, these are usually appropriate gestures to help you get a feel for what she thinks of you. Again, I understand where you’re coming from, but sometimes you have to take the smallest risks to know if you can go for bigger ones!
I’ve been trying to get a girl for a long time now and whenever I find one, I always just ask the same question, what’s the time. I say this to try and start a conversation but I always lose my nerve and say thanks and walk off. What do I do?
Hey Hassan,
You’re on the right track for trying to start small talk. I think a better question would be to ask something more engaging like a good recommendation for a restaurant near by! From there you can follow up by asking them out to that restaurant because you think they’re cute.
Hopefully that answers your question!
What is the best way for me to over come unsociable to talk to someone i really like and whats some best ways to Express myslef better
Hey there!
I actually wrote a post on social anxiety that I think you’ll find helpful, but you just have to remember that she’s just a person. That always helps ease my mind when talking to a girl. I’m not entirely sure what you mean by “express myself better” because it could be regarding many things. Assuming you’re talking about being around someone you like, I would give that person a compliment to start and to communicate things clearly when you can.
If you have any more questions let me know. Hope this helps!
Hey, I’m Carter,
I’ve been flirting with a girl over text for a several months but everytime we meet in person i can’t keep up the conversations and i usually become shy. How do i overcome that?
Hi Carter,
I completely understand where you’re coming from. I’d recommend a few things:
1) Understand why you get shy and work on solutions from there
2) Try and find common ground on anything when talking in person. This helps keep convos going. If your texts are going well, you can always follow up with topics that you’ve previously discussed.
3) Remember that, if she’s flirting back, she’s just as interested in you as you are in her. So don’t be afraid to show a little confidence and be more of yourself in front of her.
If you have any more questions please let me know 🙂 good luck!
Should I say that she smells good?? Or is that too over?
Hi Synora,
The truth is… some girls find it creepy and others take it as a compliment. If you want to work around being creepy, try saying “I like perfume are you wearing… it smells great!” At the end of the day though, it really depends on the girl. Hope this helps!
“Another trick I’ll use is walking past her and squeezing the side of her belly. She knows I’m thinking about her as I walk by and I get a little tease/touch action.”
No no no no, if a man did this to me I would instantly get icky vibes. I don’t care if you’re my boyfriend, friend or anything. Obviously everyone is different, but use with caution, i can’t imagine this going over well. There’s so many other options to casually touch someone if you have to!
Good point Sarah! Everyone is different for sure. This has worked for me countless amount of times mostly because it gets a little jump out of them in a teasing kind of way. But of course, if it doesn’t work once on a girl, don’t try it again. Thanks for the comment!
how do you get a girl to have sex with you
Hey Jacob, Honest answer – If you work and focus on yourself enough while also flirting with enough girls, it’s something that will come naturally. Personally, the moments in my life where I didn’t over think it, those were the times I was having sex. Best of luck my friend!
As a teenage girl, I can confirm that these items work, especially the confidence. Also, the friendly touching is good because then she knows that you’re into her and she won’t go flirt with other guys and she will think about you a lot
Thanks for sharing Kayla!